When They Say, “Things Happen For A Reason”- Really?

Recently, I was attending a spiritual session where someone said something that made me pause completely.

They said, “Things happen for a reason. Do your work with good intentions and leave the rest to God”.

At that moment, I smiled politely but inside, a storm began.

I kept thinking… Is it really that easy?

Can we truly just “let go” when things fall apart, when our hearts ache, when plans crumble, or when life stops making sense?

For the next couple of hours after that session, that one sentence kept echoing in my head, replaying again and again. And the more I thought about it, the more I realised, the answer isn’t simple.

Because the truth is, every single one of us is carrying something within us, may be a :

A silent story.
A quiet pain.
A fear, a loss, a dream that didn’t turn out as expected.

We all wear smiles on the outside but deep inside, we’re holding worlds that no one sees.

Do you know the irony of this era, We live in an age where everything is available instantly from food, comfort, entertainment to even companionship. But somehow, peace of mind feels miles away.

No doubt we’re surrounded by abundance but yet many of us feel empty. I mean we can have luxury, success, vacations, gadgets but often, what we lack most is stillness.

And without realizing it, we’ve become robotic, efficient tend to rush from one task to another, from one notification to the next, but emotionally exhausted without pausing to ask ourselves:

“How am I really feeling?”

And when the silence does come, it feels uncomfortable.
Because in that silence, our unhealed parts speak the loudest.

Lately I felt, Social media has connected us to everyone yet disconnected us from ourselves where we scroll, compare, and measure our worth against others’.

We think, “They must be happier… more successful… more peaceful.”
But the truth? Everyone is fighting their own unseen battle.

You know, the friend who always looks confident might be struggling to hold it together or the colleague who seems strong might be breaking quietly at home or the person smiling in that vacation photo might be trying hard to escape their own mind.

We’ve become experts at hiding pain and masters at pretending everything’s fine.

You know that day, as I sat quietly after the spiritual session, something shifted in me. I realised, Resilience isn’t about pretending everything is okay or not forcing yourself to “move on” overnight or that not toxic positivity.

Resilience is the art of bending without breaking.

It’s about allowing yourself to feel deeply the pain, the confusion, the heartbreak and still choosing to stand up again. Not because life suddenly becomes easy, but may be you learn that you are stronger than you thought.

Resilience is when your soul whispers, “Even this shall pass.”

It’s when you fall apart and rebuild again and again and each time, you rise with more grace, more wisdom, and more compassion for yourself.

To me, resilience is not just strength.
It’s softness.
It’s surrender.
It’s trust, that even when things don’t make sense now, they’re shaping you into someone wiser and more grounded.

I also experienced that peace is not found in the next promotion or the next trip, or the next perfect routine. But it begins the moment we stop fighting with life and start flowing with it.

It lies in the small moments of life which we rarely give importance like: being fully present with someone you love, taking a deep breath between chaos, and reminding ourselves, “I’m doing my best, and that’s enough.”

I think we don’t need to have it all figured out rather just need to stay open to learn, heal and grow.

Why i am sharing this because I want to tell you, yes you, If life feels heavy right now, know this you don’t need to have all the answers.

You’re allowed to rest.
You’re allowed to cry.
You’re allowed to feel lost.

Because even in those moments, you’re learning something vital, the language of your own resilience because things are not falling apart but they’re rearranging for your growth where every challenge is shaping you into the person you’re meant to become.

So take it slow.
Breathe deeply.
Trust that this phase, too, is part of your becoming.

And remember you are not alone in this my friend, no matter if the world glorifies strength as never falling. But remember true strength your true resilience lies in falling and rising again, each time softer, wiser, and more kind to yourself.

So the next time someone says, “Everything happens for a reason,”
smile not because you agree blindly, but because you understand now sometimes, the reason is to awaken the strength that was sleeping within you all along.

Much love to you all.❤️